Like most people, I value my family above anything else on this earth. Yet, as my mother-in-law, Iris, told me decades ago when I asked why her disagreeable older sister always seemed to be feuding with her siblings, she replied, “Well, I love her - always will, but she’s been at odds with somebody in the family forever. Some people, if they weren’t family, you’d never have anything to do with them. You can’t pick your family like you can pick your friends.” Aunt Alice, t